
Novel networking event enables entrepreneurs to learn from others’ business missteps, says Cut The Small Talk’s Angela Ognev.
Joseph Wong, founder and CEO of start-up ForteCentral, has attended many business seminars and inspirational talks. Some were helpful to him as an entrepreneur, while others were not. Yet among all of them, none was as impactful as F***up Night. Wong has attended every session since his first several months ago. He has even cajoled friends and fellow entrepreneurs to join him.
As the name suggests, the event celebrates failure, particularly in the area of business and entrepreneurship. It is a platform — for three to four entrepreneurs each time — to share their story with an audience. The aim is for members of the audience to learn invaluable lessons from the failings of others.
Each speaker is given seven minutes to do so and they may use up to 10 images for illustration purposes. This is followed by a question-and- answer session with the floor. The event concludes with networking among the speakers and members of the audience.
The event is held once every two months at The Hub Singapore, a co-working space dedicated to start-ups and entrepreneurs. It is organised by Cut The Small Talk (CTST), a not-for-profit group that organises events promoting open and candid conversations on taboo and controversial topics.
This writer recently attended the 11th session of the gathering to check out the buzz surrounding it. The speakers for the night were Gametize co-founder Keith Ng, spiritual coach Elyse-Anne and author, speaker and mindset coach Richard Phu.
It was a full house. The attendees were from all walks of life. Some were still in their office attire; others were casually dressed. Each session so far has attracted between 80 and 120 people, estimates Angela Ognev, a CTST co-organiser, who was also the night’s emcee. After getting the audience to do stretching exercises as part of an icebreaker, she gave a brief history of the event and the programme before introducing the speakers. It was the start of a night of candid storytelling peppered with poignant contemplation and the occasional joke. The stories shared, though self-indulgent at times, were very personal.
Ognev tells Enterprise how people have expressed surprise at the openness of the speakers in sharing their failures. As a result of that openness, they often feel very connected with the speakers, she elaborates.
“I think the idea of people just saying something about what’s happening in their lives, the mistakes that they have made, is very attractive,” Ognev says. “We’re hoping that more people can be [more] open [about their failures].”
Celebrating failure
The first such event was held in Mexico in 2012. It was the brainchild of several entrepreneurs whose businesses had failed but who had found meaning in talking about their failures. This informal conversation eventually turned into a formal event, and the idea soon gained traction with entrepreneurs outside Mexico. Today, it is a global phenomenon and is held in many cities around the world, including Singapore.
CTST introduced the concept in February last year. The Hub Singapore asked Ognev if they could collaborate to bring it to Singapore. It offered its premises for free if she would organise it. Ognev, who had heard about the concept and was impressed with it, agreed.
She roped in Adele Sim and Amelie Tan as co-organisers, and CTST was born. The latter two had been involved in organising TedX and TedX Women prior to that and Ognev got to know them through one of the networking sessions at the two events. “They are both very free-spirited and norm-challenging people,” she says. “We weren’t that close as friends before, but I just instinctively thought they would be good people for challenging norms and for having more open conversations.”
Speakers for the event are those who are courageous enough to speak about their business failures. They are usually entrepreneurs, whom Ognev defines as people who see a gap in the market and take action. Hence, they could be business owners or freelancers.
Speakers are usually selected by CTST, although sometimes they are referred to the organisation by other people. In some cases, members of the audience themselves volunteer to speak at the next event. CTST does not conduct a rigorous screening of the speakers, but usually enquires about the topics they intend to speak on. Ognev believes this approach encourages speakers to share their stories freely.
What motivates someone to tell strangers about his failures? Ng of Gametize says while he felt nervous, he was more than willing to share his story as it could be helpful to others in a similar situation.
“If there is an opportunity for me to share them, why not?” he tells Enterprise during the networking session. “I can tell them what has not worked [out] for me.” During his presentation, Ng had related how he attempted suicide after racking up huge debts when his business was doing badly (see below: Gametize’s Ng climbs back up from rock bottom ).
Still, not everyone is candid or brave enough to share such an experience. Some speakers prefer to tell a mixed story of success and failure. In fact, many of the accounts have happy endings or some form of positive progress, says Ognev. “It’s hard for them to be negative all the way through. It really depends on the person.”
On the other hand, some speakers get carried away when relating their stories, or become too emotional. That is why a time limit is necessary, says Ognev. “I think it is a tough balance between being open and dumping an emotional load on someone else. When a speaker is very emotional about something painful, it can be hard for some people to handle. So I think it is good to keep the time short.” That being said, none of the three speakers that night kept to the time limit!
Is it helpful?
Is there anything to be gained from hearing about another person’s failures? Yasser Khan, founder and CEO of propertyagentleads.com, who was attending the event for the first time, tells Enterprise that it presents an opportunity for people to learn from the mistakes of others, which is different from what many other events and seminars offer.
For ForteCentral’s Wong, the takeaway from each session is always different. And sometimes, the advice given by two speakers on the same night can appear to contradict each other. But it is up to the audience to decide what is useful to them, he says. “Whether speaker A or B is right — and they are probably both right — what they give is the context of how to look at things. That is my biggest takeaway,” he tells Enterprise.
Ognev agrees. “I think some speakers are going to be more useful to some people than to others. And people will take whatever is most useful [to them],” she says. Beyond that, what they take away could be something they felt or thought in response to what the speaker said, Ognev adds.
Then again, not all stories shared by the speakers are deemed as failures by the audience, according to Wong. This puts the speaker on the spot and it is interesting to see how he or she responds in this situation, he says. Wong stresses that it is more beneficial to learn from the failures rather than the success of others, as the perspective is different. It is even more impactful when the speaker is “still in the pit” and yet to find success, he says.
The next event is scheduled for Oct 5, but Ognev is already looking forward to it. “I think, in general, but maybe more so in Singapore, people don’t talk much about what’s not going well [or] when they don’t feel well. There is a lot of pressure around success and making ‘X’ amount of dollars a month. So having this space for them is very nice.”
Gametize’s Ng climbs back up from rock bottom
Keith Ng hit rock bottom when he was a budding entrepreneur. Starting a business was not as easy as he thought it would be. At one point, he had only $1.13 in his bank account. He could not pay his utility bills, leading to his power supply being cut. He owed the credit card companies money. Ng was ready to commit suicide.
“These were the lowest points of my life,” he says, recounting his tragic tale at F***up Night. Ng is a cofounder and CEO of Gametize. Founded in 2009, the startup provides gamification solutions to enhance activities, experiences and business functions. It was known as Socialico before rebranding itself under its current name.
Like many start-ups, its initial years were difficult. Gametize was an unknown brand with no track record. Business deals were hard to come by. This led to severe cash flow problems. Gametize was supposed to receive funding from a multi-millionaire US investor, but that did not materialise.
“I was, at this point in time, played out by an investor who was supposed to do a second tranche of investment,” he says. “You wouldn’t have expected him to default on the investment sum of about US$30,000 that was being matched by the National Research Foundation for another US$200,000.”
Desperate, Ng resorted to credit card loans to pay his staff’s salaries. It was perhaps the stupidest thing he did, he admits. “I strongly recommend you not to do that,” he tells the crowd. “It’s incredibly unhealthy, incredibly stressful. The interest rate was just compounding year on year.”
Depressed and suicidal, Ng googled for the easiest and least painful way to end his life. His search led him to realise there was no “easy” way to commit suicide. In fact, the odds of successfully committing suicide were low. He realised he could end up being paralysed or brain dead, a fate worse than death.
What prevented Ng from going ahead was the thought of his mother. A photograph on screen shows him kissing her cheek during her birthday celebration. “Her image just kept floating in my mind,” says Ng, an only child. She is a single mother. Ng says when contemplating suicide, the important thing to remember is your family or whoever else you will leave behind. That saved his life.
Things eventually turned for the better in 2012. Gametize won funding in a now-defunct reality TV show called Angel’s Gate. On the show, entrepreneurs would compete against each other by pitching their business ideas to the judges-cum-investors. Gametize won the top prize of US$200,000. It started to gain more recognition and became profitable as business boomed.
Ng reckons his early failure was a result of several mistakes. “I think I was very naïve. I was dreaming for a very long time. I met a lot of people and got bullshit advice,” he says. “I was very egoistic and thought I could be the next Mark Zuckerberg [chairman, CEO and cofounder of Facebook].”
He is thankful to have a great team at Gametize, including his co-founder, Damon Widjaja. “As long as you find the right guy [as your partner], you can keep [messing] up.
This article appeared in the Enterprise of Issue 744 (Sept 5) of The Edge Singapore.